Waiting for a knight in shining armour?

Yes, that is such a cliche. Being independent grown women, we should know better than to even entertain such a thought! However, does that stop us from longing for that special someone who will protect us and soothe our souls? Someone who may not be a gallant knight in the traditional sense, but someone we know we could totally trust to respect us and who will care deeply for us. This is despite not quite understanding why we feel the way we do at times and despite not having a clue what we are going on and on about when the solutions are so blatantly obvious to them!

So why then, is it so difficult to find this modern knight? Is it perhaps, we strive too hard to be strong and independent, that we cannot or don't know how to surrender our lives to being co -dependent on someone else. Is it because, relationships are more fragile these days and we have convinced ourselves from the onset that there are no guarantees? If there are no guarantees, why should we then put all our hopes and fears into the hands' of another, only to know that either party can just walk away and start all over somewhere else or with someone else.

Is the problem than not with finding the knight (assuming he is the right one!) but truly accepting that our knights in the harsh light of reality are flawed and can be totally infuriating at times but we can't imagine life without them? Yes, this means putting up with the trail of mess they tend to leave behind or the boisterious mates who seem to hang around long after the beers are all gone! Yes, it also means the not so sexy, attempts at getting our endorphins charged when all we want to do is crawl under the duvet and cuddle up to sleep. This is when we scream in our heads...we don't have an automatic switch that says push 'on' and 'off' when one wants to play.

Perhaps, we do over complicate things by expecting too much, giving too little or giving too much, and expecting too little that we become cynical and wary of finding that knight in shining armour. Or we should hold our heads up high and subscribe to the principle that why should we settle for any less.. as one commercial says 'Because we are worth it!'